Here comes the bride and her muffin top

Engaged! We gave into the pressures of hetero-normative (I learned that from Randyl). Mike is going to make a honest woman out of me. He proposed to me at our first meeting place 12 years ago at 1 Colorado Courtyard. He got on his knee and (he won't admit this) got choked up. It was really sweet. I think I said something like, "of course" and he told me he loved me and I said, "Thank you"

After all the drama of buying the ring, he bought me a conflict free Canadian diamond. My mother thought the hoopla was lame-ass but Mike wanted to make sure everyone was happy in the situation. The funny thing is the ring is a size too small and when I put it on, I started to lose feeling on my ring finger. Gosh, is that a metaphor for the ball and chain or what? Mike had the graciousness to tell me that my finger has a muffin top
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This is from one of the 38 weddings we have attended in the last ten years. Yippee its our turn to get gifts! Hahahahahahahahahaha

Immigration culture clash

My mom and my sister totally ditched me and voted for Clinton. Yes, after my internal debate, I am begrudgingly Obama. My mother in her weird mom no filter and a combination of immigrant no filter always makes the most astounding remarks. I asked my sister why she voted for Hilary, she wanted to support the sisterhood and that she has experience. My mother wanted a Clinton so that she can bring back that fuzzy warm times called the late 90s. I was suspicious of my mother's intention so I asked her point blank, "Did you not want a black man in power?" and her response, "There is a black man running?" Try to understand that one...

SUPER DUPER TUESDAY CONFUSION

To Obama or Not to Obama...that is the question of the night. For the first time in my voting life I don't know who to vote for come Tuesday. The only one I had a spiritual connection dropped out quick and the man with the populist ideals bailed before I could even let anyone know about why I was voting for a white man in this historic crossroad. Honestly I feel like I have to play to the media hype of identity politics where I must choose my gender or for people of color everywhere. I have to admit I am enamored with Obama's oratory skills to inspire for change. Makes me want to rip off my pjs and go campaigning. Except I have no idea what else to say after the audacity of hope runs short with no details. Change for what? Hope with what? Is this going to be one of those long run on sentences mission statements that is so global it ends up saying nothing at all. Then if I don't vote for my sister, Hilary, am I betraying my feminist ideals of one day of hearing the pronouns of she, her, woman hear me roar?Except would I be voting for a woman who is so capable of drawing out to vote every insecure man who doesn't want to be told by a woman and is in fighting stance when someone had the nerve to insult him by calling him a girl? My political junkie self has been trolling the internet for some advice, some directions and it leads me back to this place. How can something so historic and exciting be so utterly confusing? And why am I even stressing? We don't even have direct democracy and I might have my vote discounted anyhow when November rolls around and electoral votes blinds my popular vote. This is why Mike prefers to drown himself in reality tv shows.

49-51

Over sweet potato fries and a cup of coffee we discussed our favorite topic: relationship and dating. Kevin once said that in his relationship he expects that power should be divided 51-49, he is the former. Though I have a stinking suspicion that it is really 80-20 but he was adjusting because of the audience. Regardless, it infuriates me that it has to be about one power over another. Can it be possible that there is polarity and that each can have their needs met without being the "loser" in the situation? I am often surprised that the strongest women I know are meek kittens in their relationships. They want their partner's to have the final word. Really? Why does it have to so complicated? I mean if monogamy is natural wouldn't it just work naturally? I included a picture of my friend, Kevin...ladies he is single...